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 Revelations: Finding yourself (better late than never) through online dating
Hi, my name`s Nigel and I`m 55 years old. In the beginning, about six years ago, my search for a soul mate consisted of speed dating in my local area or submitting to Lonely Hearts columns in newspapers. This led to a number of either non-consequential or meaningless meetings. I did meet some really great, warm women and had a few good - but short - relationships. The problem with the speed dating was that no one was my age. As a (then) 49 year old, I was looking for something I don`t think the other candidates were. I was a lot more mature, settled and looking for companionship. As a traditional Christian, I found this search even harder. After a dry spell on the speed dating front I stumbled across (with a little help from above) a great alternative for over 50`s dating that didn`t involve awkward meetings, drinking or the disappointment of not meeting people similar in age.
It was my good friend Luke who introduced me to online dating. Luke, like myself, had lost his partner a few years ago. Going through such grief caused me to lose sight of who I was as an individual and what I wanted. God helped me realise when it was the right time to adjust to my new life. Luke helped me connect to various sites but I found I was most at home when surrounded by likeminded Christians, like at Online Dating Bible.
Setting up my online profile was surprisingly cathartic. Thinking about what my interests were, who I wanted to meet, my religious outlook and the type of person I might be interested in was hugely helpful in understanding my new self. The old story about recognising your own values before you can recognise someone else`s is completely true. Writing an online dating profile is like creating your own advert, but it has to be completely honest, candid and open. Filling it out is a lot more detailed and focused than turning up at speed dating and having those same old conversation starters every three minutes. You do it once and you choose who you talk to.
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